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With dating apps providing easy accessibility to meeting a potential mate, how come it has become so much harder to actually find a significant connection? Studies have proven that a multitude of options aren’t always a positive thing as it may cloud judgement, and deter you from your original set convictions. An increase of options decreases our choice satisfaction due to the inevitable result of being unsure of our choices. Our mind settles into a state of fear in making a decision we may come to regret. This is when the barrage of ‘what if’s’ start flooding our minds.  What if I settle? What if I keep going? What if I find someone better? These are the frantic thoughts that keep us up at night. What used to be your koi pond has now become the Atlantic Ocean. The ocean brings with it adventure and curiosity as it allows more space to swim and different places to explore. Although, with all of these options, loneliness does become more apparent. The further you get from your original goal of meeting the right one, the stronger the sense of loneliness consumes you. With the sea of more options, you are left with the feeling of unfulfillment. Why stop at just one? There’s always bigger, there’s always better. Keep searching. Don’t stop swiping! If the guy you met yesterday was good, God only knows what tomorrow’s guys will be like. The options are limitless!
Major caution: although the ocean allows more space to swim, you will run into piranhas. You may meet people who feed into your insecurities and suck the blood out of your self-confidence. Have you ever been on a first date where you’re sitting across from them, getting that disappointed look because you are not what they expected? The level of their disinterest grows as the date progresses. The banter you had during your text-a-thon is now replaced with tension so thick you could cut it with a knife. Or, have you ever had your intellect challenged by a cocky know-it-all who is appalled that your ideals don’t match theirs? You can be left feeling annoyed and perturbed; what was supposed to be a fun night out turned into a not-so-fun debate. These piranhas and others exist; everybody likes to play but not everybody plays nice. There is no avoiding them, it’s how you choose to deal with them that matters. 
Dating apps have allowed us to swipe mindlessly, or worse, go out on dates with a plethora of people knowing it won’t go anywhere. It is kind of like going to an all-you-can-eat buffet and filling up your plate with a little bit of everything not caring about the caloric intake, or the acid reflux incurred the next day. Although options are aplenty, true intimacy has become scarce. Playful text messages are entertaining, however, they will not replace the comfort, security and stability like when you’re in a loving union.
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