With the ability to hide behind computers and phones it has become more apparent in today’s culture to be lax in every form of accountability. A simple text or email to cancel plans, or flat-out ignoring that you made plans, sets the stage for meetings, to dates and even hanging out with friends. It’s real, it happens and it is unbelievably annoying. This is especially hard in the dating culture when you don’t really know someone well enough to cast the cancellation aside as a “flakey” moment. Your mind immediately goes to whether or not the person is truly interested in you.
This brings us to ponder the virtue of consistency. Never before have we valued it so strongly as it has become more rare in today’s society. We realized, in our dating lives, that a man gets bumped up exponentially in our eyes if they call when they say they will and keep plans that were made together. It shows interest, integrity, and respect for the other person’s time. We spent far too many nights waiting for a text to confirm the night’s plans only to have it cancelled. The amount of money spent on grooming and outfits alone could feed a small town in Africa. In our younger years, we would not have valued this trait as strongly as others because it wouldn’t be viewed as sexy as perhaps…the guy’s biceps.
If you are in the dating arena we dare you take a closer look at the pool of prospects you are speaking to. Who calls when they say they will? Who remembers your cousin’s wedding was last weekend? Who asks if you had a good time? Who remembers a new restaurant you want to try and made a reservation? Take stock and see who is showing up in your life for you.