| As nerve wracking as a first date can be, there is also that element of excitement and surprise. What if you really hit it off and actually have a connection? That moment of excitement turns into utter annoyance when you are sitting across from them, with glazed over eyes, as the date goes on a tangent, with a high level of detail, about their past relationship. You go with the motions and feign interest in their story. You even give the appropriate responses to show that you are following their rant, with the hope of a subject segway to get them off their emotional monologue. But now, an hour into hearing how he doesn’t even like carrots but somehow she incorporated them into every night’s meal, and he ate it without any complaints, it’s pretty evident that although he is completely over beta-carotene, he is not over his ex. You can never get this time back. You, and your precious eggs, are two hours older when you come to the realization that you and Mr. Bugs Bunny will never be a dynamic duo. Two hours in and he hasn’t asked you one question about yourself. Yet, you know Lisa only likes to have sex on Thursday nights after Grey’s Anatomy; and she has a deformed pinkie-toe from a freak escalator accident from when she was a kid. If this is you and you are not sure if you are over your ex, take the physical cues from your date: lack of eye movement; dramatic sighs; an uptick in drink orders; their sudden interest in their phones, etc. All we are asking is to switch gears, ask questions about us and for Godsakes leave out your ex’s personal details. Your date doesn’t want to feel like she’s their ex too by the end of the night. |
