The dating playbook has changed significantly within the past 10 years. For example, it was once considered an act of desperation to search for a potential love interest online. Whereas now, it’s the most common and accepted method. The only difference is the online dating pool 10 years ago was stocked with serious contenders whole-heartedly in search for their mate. Online profiles today are more like gym memberships; we all have one regardless of how active we are. Some of us are religious about it with a goal. And there are others who have their workout gear on but only go to socialize; they refuse to break a sweat. You can’t call what goes on today as forming true relationships. People talk, perhaps catch some feelings, end up sleeping together and form “situation-ships”. Which is also their way of telling you that the “ship” you have with them will never leave the port. They’ll be fine docking in the marina while you get on board with your five piece Samsonite ready to set sail.
Dating in today’s world consists of a series of texts, sporadic phone calls if you’re lucky, a meetup or two and one person left dumbfounded as to why they never heard from said person again (regretting the fact that they slept with said person after the second date). “Never Settle” has become a played out mantra that has led single people to discard potentials with the idea that there surely must be somebody better out there. That one thought has prevented a number of potential relationships from growing and developing to see what could happen. For whatever reason, perhaps they didn’t feel a fire in their heart, they move on without discussion while justifying in their minds “there must be better, mustn’t settle”. The ease of meeting people online has fed into the immediate gratification bucket and has created the non-chalance of acting appropriately. FYI online daters: we are not talking about disposable razors here. These are human beings with hearts. Somehow this has been forgotten.
