Burnouts exist in every facet of life; the dating arena is no different. Burnouts occur as a result of over-simulation. When you are driving on auto-pilot for a long enough time, all excitement ceases to exist. Excitement is replaced with obligation and everything becomes just a mundane task. Perhaps you feel you have reached your swipe limitation. Not meaning you ran of of people in your queue to swipe on, rather, you ran out of mo-jo inside your heart to care about the outcome. Maybe the last three dates you went on were dead ends. Or maybe your dates ended with your ego bruised, feeling worse when you left than when you walked into them. If you have been in the dating scene for a while, it is healthy to take a hiatus from time to time to cleanse yourself of negative thoughts, disappointment and/or rejection.
What are some signs that you may need to take a break? You are cynical about dating, period. You already assume the date is going to end bad before you even have the date. You swipe aimlessly without any emotion or luster. What started off as an ambitious effort in attaining your end outcome has turned into an exhausting chore. There is no more fun or reward in it for you, it is something you dread versus look forward to doing. When you are in this mode, you aren’t shining the best version of yourself regardless of your efforts.
Time to take a dating cleanse and focus on yourself. There are many benefits of taking a break from dating. You can spend that time focusing on yourself to re-evaluate what you are looking for because it is easy to lose sight of it when you were aimlessly dating. You could also use that time to re-grow a second skin if your self-esteem took a beating while out there in dating field. Most importantly, it is imperative to take care of you. Self care allows you to do what makes your soul happy and forces you to take your power back. We are not IT experts, but almost everything can work again if you unplug for a few minutes and restart.
What’s the longest break you have taken from online dating and why? We would love to hear from you!
